I’ve just returned from a conference with the leading pharmacists and industry heavyweights from around New Zealand. I find it can be easy in such company to allow feelings of inferiority to creep in. Or to feel inadequate, despite running a very successful business. Surrounded by all those talented people, I sometimes felt like I didn't belong.
Then when I was flicking through a book in a store at the airport, I found this quote from Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
After reading that saying, I realised my colleagues don't see me as inferior. Neither do they intend to make me feel inadequate. All those feelings rattle around in my head because I allow them to be there.
As I am not one for self-help books, and intense navel gazing, how will I overcome this?
Well, I have decided that firstly I need to stop measuring myself against what I think are other people's ideas of success. Because if I don't, I will always feel inferior and inadequate.
I set my own goals and projects for work and life. If I can tick these off then I am successful. What other people think is irrelevant. That will take the power away from them, and give me back my confidence.
Secondly, I am going to be myself, warts and all. People can see the good and bad, and if they don't like it, that's their problem. I'll try to be the best person, and pharmacist I can be. But I won't try and be someone I am not so that I can be accepted by others.
As I thought about this I realised that probably most of the other people at the conference were likely feeling the same way. We all work hard in our businesses, strive to be good pharmacists, and genuinely try to contribute positively to the communities we live in.
Yet for some reason we all feel like we aren't good enough. What a crazy world we live in!
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